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The Ten Porn Commandments… for Consumers

So my last blog post was Commandments for Content Creators. Buyers, consumers, clients, friends, supporters… this one is for you.

1. Thou shalt pay.

We are running businesses here. We want to make money. By engaging with people who don’t pay we are wasting time that could be better spent with paying clients. Also, if you are enjoying a model’s content, pay them something. $5 can actually mean the difference between us cashing out for the month or not. Can’t pay? Well, this is not hobby for you. Step aside and make way for the people who have cash.

2. Thou shalt respect boundaries.

We make boundaries for a reason, to keep ourselves feeling safe and in control. If you try to change a model’s boundaries you are telling them, in eassence, that you don’t care about them in the slightest. With such an intimate form of entertainment, respecting boundaries is even more important than in other occupations, because the hazards associated with it are huge. It could mean life or death.

3. Thou shalt respect privacy.

You are purchasing a service or content, not the right to know every little detail about the model. Privacy in this industry is so important, and like I would not invade the privacy of a consumer (finding out their real name, where they live, where they work, their marital status), you should not delve into the private life of models. This is our work, and can be very unsafe at times. Do not take our responses to invasive questions as personal; we need to tread very carefully in all domains of our lives.

4. Thou shalt provide feedback.

Sometimes, we as content creators sit in a cone of silence. People will buy content and never say anything about it; if they loved it or hated it. I personally love reviews, even if they are not 5 stars, because constructive criticism helps me grow. Like any other services tell us; good, bad or whatever. It honestly is so important.

5. Thou shalt communicate clearly, like an adult.

If you would like to purchase a service or piece of content, approach it as you would any other purchase. Abusing the seller, making them feel uncomfortable, emotionally manipulating or not asking what you want directly and succinctly is not how anyone does things. Especially if you want to develop an ongoing business relationship with someone.

6. Thou shalt understand the business if one wants to consume it.

Asking dumb questions of content creators and adult service providers is not a smart move. Not when it doesn’t take much effort to learn about the business. Learn about how the adult industry works and learn about your favourite creators. Where you can buy their content, what payment methods they prefer and how services are provided. It makes it easier for us and you, which makes for a much more enjoyable experiences.

7. Thou shalt comply with reasonable requests from models.

This one kind of follows on from the last. The kind of requests I am talking about are payment before product, their preferred payment method and times/method of delivering content/service. Make our lives easier, not harder.

8. Thou shalt not be a timewaster.

Timewasters are the bane of our existence. Our time equals money so wasting it is a serious indiscretion. We will not forget it either. It will taint any interaction with you thereafter. If in doubt, send a tip.

9. Thou shalt think before speaking.

Look, we know that when purchasing our content and speaking to us you are in a certain… state of mind. And sometimes this means you speak without thinking. But please, in order to get what we both need, just try to stop and put your thoughts together first.

10. Thou shalt not be a shit human.

Follows on from number 9 in a certain sense. Remember that you are speaking to a human with wants, needs and feelings. There is a real person on the end of your transaction who has to deal with some pretty rough behaviour every single day. Want to stand out and be remembered fondly? Want to have nice future interactions with us? Then be thoughtful and considerate. It will bode well for you.

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The Ten Porn Commandments… for Independent Content Creators

Here are some things I have learnt while navigating the world of independent adult content creation. Subject to change…

1. Thou shalt always get cash first.

Do not deliver services without full payment first. Always get paid, then do the work. This industry is notorious for people who will try to get something for nothing. If someone will not pay upfront, keep on walking. I have heard every excuse in the book from potential clients and they are just that… baseless excuses.

2. Thou shalt be true to oneself.

It is tempting to look at what others are doing and try to emulate it or worse, get down on yourself because you are not like them. Personality is a huge part of this industry, and being the unique and amazing human you are will attract genuine fans your way. Sure, we can mould ourselves to fit whatever the mainstream fad is at the time, but for longevity, it is about building a brand which is consistent and true to yourself.

3. Thou shalt adopt a schedule and abide by it.

Consistent content creation is real work and real work takes planning. How much content are you planning on releasing and when? Build a schedule around this. Have dedicated time to work and dedicated time to rest. It will reduce your stress, take the pressure off of you and make sure you remain consistent.

4. Thou shalt always get high one’s own supply.

As opposed to Biggie’s commandments, you need to be able to get high on your work. You need to love what you produce. Grow to love your body and all its flaws. Accept your personality and quirks. If I create something and it doesn’t excite me, I can guarantee it will not excite my clients.

5. Thou shalt establish boundaries.

Boundaries are important, in every part of your life. Become an expert at establishing them and maintaining them. If it is your scheduled day off, don’t work and don’t let disrespectful people come in on your downtime. If you only accept a certain payment method, don’t change just because of a badgering client. If there are services you are not comfortable providing, don’t let anyone bullying you into providing them. I could do a whole blog on my experience with boundaries, and maybe I will…

6. Thou shalt make time for breaks.

This is a part of establishing a schedule. This industry is hard work and quarantining time to rest will serve you in the long run. It is mentally and emotionally not healthy to work 24/7, 365 days of the year. Be kind to yourself and schedule in breaks.

7. Thou shalt find one’s tribe.

Finding people who support you and what you do is vital. It is hard to find people in our “real lives” who understand the work we do. It is an incredibly isolating industry at times and it doesn’t need to be. Gather people around you to be your cheer squad and encouragement, especially when things get rough. Reach out to people who are likeminded and develop connections. By lifting others up, you will also be supported and develop your business.

8. Thou shalt not start drama and when one senses it, thou shalt avoid it.

It is very tempting to get involved in petty drama, including worrying about someone stealing clients, or making inappropriate clients or not being 100% honest. It is in your best interests not to concern yourself with this. Getting involved with someone else’s drama or starting it yourself is a good way to get branded as a troublemaker and unprofessional. Support your colleagues but avoid those who engage in drama. It will not serve you in the long run and is a huge waste of time in the here and now. Worry about you and your business, not the actual or perceived bad behaviour of others.

9. Thou shalt persist like one’s life depends on it.

Those who succeed and have longevity in this industry are those that are committed and keep moving forward. We all have bad days, weeks, months. We all have mediocre clients or hate-spewing trolls. We all have times we think “why the hell am I still doing this?” The key is to know that these times pass. The only way for things to get better is to hang in there. I am not saying you have to do this till the day you die; but think long and hard before deciding to quit. Take a break before making any major decisions.

10. Thou shalt know one’s business.

People think anyone can make some sexy content and make a buck or three. Wrong. There is way more to it than that. You probably know this by now, but I cannot stress it enough. Always keep open. Always try to learn more. Listen and seek advice from others. Really get knowledgeable on how platforms work, marketing, branding and production of content. It will make a huge difference not only to how you feel about the business, but your success depends upon it.

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Demystifying Premium Snapchat

I don’t run a Snapchat account anymore, but let me tell you what I know…

Premium Snapchat has become very popular recently and I used to have absolutely no idea what people were talking about when they referred to “pocket porn.” An internet search gave me a little more knowledge but here are the main bite sized pieces for anyone looking to subscribe to one…

What is Premium Snapchat?

Premium Snapchat is the term used to describe the Snapchat accounts of adult models sharing NSFW (not safe for work) content (pics, clips, chats). A fee is generally charged to gain access. Once you pay the model the fee, they will typically send you the code for their Premium account and grant you access.

How much will it cost me?

All models price their Snapchat access differently. Some are ridiculously low, and some are ridiculously high. Some sell it month to month, whilst others will give “lifetime” access for a set fee. Premium Snapchat is also used as an extra tidbit for selling other content, eg buy a clip and get Premium Snapchat access for free. I have seen Premium Snapchat priced as low as $30 for lifetime access including screenshots and as high as $50 per month with add ons such as screenshots and chat costing extra. But if you find a model you like and what that bit extra interaction that Premium Snapchat gives you, I argue that it is probably worth your money, whatever they are asking.

What can I expect to get?

Once again, it depends on the model, so it is good to check them out before signing up to see if it is what you are looking for. Some models are very active and are uploading snaps all day, every day. Some may have all NSFW content or some may have all kinds of things. Some may allow you to screenshot snaps and to chat with them as part of the service. Generally, Premium Snapchat includes pics and clips and promotional material. Some bigger Premium users also do takeovers, allowing other models to post to their account. I have also seen some group Snapchats advertised, where a group of models share the one account so you will get a bunch of different people on the one subscription.

Do I need a special app/account?

Nope. It is just your normal Snapchat account and adding the model’s details once you have gone through the formalities means you will have access to endless pocket porn.

Sounds good. Sign me up!!!!

Hold your horses there, cowboy. Because selling access to a users Snapchat is actually against terms of service (and hence why clip sites are starting to remove Snapchat subscriptions from potential services models can use), most advertising I have seen is done privately through models social media accounts, particularly Twitter. Have a favourite model? Then see if they offer it as a service (they will usually be pretty vocal about it if they do).

Any extra tips?

There is currently some underhanded tactics being used in the Premium Snapchat space, because it can be lucrative. This includes non-models stealing model’s Snapchat content and selling it as their own. Always verify that the person selling the content is the person who owns it. This can be done through verification; most models who aren’t connected with a clip site will have verification videos showing they are who they say they are. Pro tip: if a model is on a clip site they are verified because that is part of the sign up and authorisation process. Don’t ask a clip site model for verification; it is annoying and shows your ignorance.

Ask for the rules of the Premium Snapchat you subscribe to and abide by them. This is just common courtesy.

I hope this has helped bring you up to speed with Premium Snapchat (albeit a super basic once over). And for those who want to know… I was doing Premium Snapchat when I started in this biz, but after doing it 3 or so months, the costs outweighed any benefits I was receiving. Maybe someday I will revive it but till then, go find yourself another happy snapper.

5 Reasons Why You Should Pay For Porn

Hey there, starebear…. Pay for my videos, I will last longer.

Back in the day, accessing porn took time and effort. You had to know where to get it and you had to pay for it (or get it as a hand me down from someone who had done the work to get hold of it). I remember the nude magazines at my local newsagent, with models hidden behind black plastic covers. The softcore porn in a private corner at the video store. Borrowing copies of XXX videos from my friends who had got them via weird mail order companies.

Now, all you need to do is open up your internet browser, plug a term into your search engine and bingo. You have access to pretty much anything your heart desires. The fact is that the internet was built for porn and is an outstanding medium to access it quickly and easily.

I believe that we need to maintain the values of the old days and continue to pay for porn. This may sound like a novel concept in a time when we crave immediacy, but maintaining the old values whilst embracing the new platforms we have at our disposal is really important. Here are five reasons why…

1. Porn is a product, like any other

Those photos, that gif, that clip that you viewed on the internet, is so accessible that we forget that this is someones work that they have put time, effort and resources into making for your entertainment. We are used to paying to listen to music, watch movies or tv shows, read books, so why are we not doing the same for our sexy content? Some say this is because there is so much freely available, we don’t put any value on it. The reality is that the stuff that is freely available is stolen from the very creators who put it together in the first place. Therefore, I argue that all it takes is a shift in mindset, from stealing content for your entertainment, to paying something for it. The ethical porn movement is a very real thing, and something I subscribe to wholeheartedly.

2.Porn is ridiculously cheap to buy

I am online most of the day working on promoting my own content and those of others. Porn is ridiculously, stupidly cheap to purchase. I know because I see the products people are selling everyday. Full length clips for $5, Premium Snapchat subscriptions (or “pocket porn”) for less than you are paying for Netflix per month, photosets containing hundreds of photos for the price of seeing a movie, live sessions with models for only a few dollars per minute. There is literally no excuse not to pay someone for something.

3. Paying for porn means you get what you want

What does your heart desire? Do you like MILFs? Taboo role play? Anal? Outdoor play? Couples? Group sex? Believe me, you can get your exact fantasy by paying performers for it. In my opinion, this is one of the best things about being able to access porn on the internet. You no longer have to stick with the rigid sexual fantasies of a chosen few, but you have a world of things to choose from. Explore, fantasize and design your own sexual adventures.

4. Porn is a legitimate job, and the only one available for some

Making porn takes time, money and resources. It looks like fun and games but there is a whole lot of stuff going on behind the scenes that you have no idea about. For some, creating porn is one of the few ways they have to make an income due to family/care commitments, health issues, disability, criminal records and lack of suitable employment where they live. Help keep someone fed and housed by paying for that little clip you enjoyed.

5. Help the porn industry grow

Paying for porn does something really important which may sound counter-intuitive, but makes economic sense. The more porn you pay for, the more porn there is available. It means performers can dedicate more time to content creation, making more amazing vids, photos and gifs for you to enjoy. It means the industry becomes diversified; if people are interested in a particular type of content and are willing to pay for it, it will become more available. It means we can keep people in the industry for a longer period of time which translates to more sexy content for the fans.

These five points are only the beginning… there are way more arguments for why it is important to pay for your porn, that I will explore in another post. But for now, I hoped I have convinced you enough that you are now willing to send a little tribute my way…