The Porn Business? It’s Just Like Any Artform.

My family have always been self-employed business people, so my earliest memories are of them working and developing their various businesses. This entrepreneurial spirit was demonstrated to me very early on and as a result, I was always interested in running my own business. My first was actually selling really cool pens to my classmates in year 4, which was stopped by the principal once he was made aware of what I was doing.

Apparently, this was a no-no in primary school.

Later, I got into the music industry, starting performing in local bands when I was 15, moving onto roles in management of bands, venues and one-off events as I got older. I served on official boards and help develop large projects involving the industry.

Yes, I am being purposely vague. You can work out why.

Working in the music industry across multiple levels means I was able to view it from a variety of angles, and look at what makes certain artists, events and ideas successful or not.

To me, it appears that the music industry people and people in the independent adult content creation industry share similar challenges when it comes to growth. What you need to know and what is required to grow in the businesses of music can be applied to that of independent adult content creation.

Here are my thoughts.

Technical Mastery

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When you start out, your technical mastery of your individual art form isn’t always the best. There is growth and development to be had before you can progress any further.

In the music industry, this stats at learning how to actually play your instrument, moving onto how to develop songs and eventually how to record them.

The same applies in the porn industry; you need to know how to perform a particular act for the camera, how operate your equipment and how to edit your content so that it is enjoyable for your audience.

All of these technical skills are being continually worked on, levelling up as you gain further experience and tools to use.

The Conduit to Your Audience

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In the previous section, I mentioned the audience. The audience is obviously crucial to both industries; these are your consumers and they must be kept at the forefront of your mind.

After your technical mastery has reached a passable level, then you will have begin to learn the mechanics of whatever medium your art uses to reach your audience. Once you have selected a site to begin sharing your content on, you. you need to know how the site works. Essentially, the site is your storefront, and once you have learnt how to navigate that, then you need to work out how to grow, which means how to reach your target audience..

This is exactly the same for people in the music industry as it is for those in the adult industry. Though the sites may be different (or in some cases, the same!), they all operate the same sort of way. Each has a “creator portal”, “terms of services”and types of content format that can be uploaded.

The People You Need to Know

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Once you have got to the stage where you have mastered the platform you are hosting your content on, you will become aware that there is something that is preventing you from making the next leap in your career.

This used to really puzzle me, as I couldn’t see what was required and what I needed to do. This is because this is where you get to the point where you can’t see the machinations of the industry unless you are right inside it. And that takes a special kind of action because you need to find the people in the industry who are important to know. I know that there are people in both industries which you need to connect with to get to that next level.

In the music industry, this includes venue owners, booking agents, sound engineers, industry bodies and other bands within your genre.

The adult industry is exactly the same, but the people you need to connect with are slightly different; site owners, heads of departments, photographers/videographers, industry specifc media and other models within your niche.

Level Up – Develop Status

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I just mentioned industry specific media, and both industries have their own types of media that you need to connect into. This is because the next level involves developing status and media is the primary way to develop this and industry respect.

I just mentioned industry specific media, and both industries have their own types of media that you need to connect into. This is because the next level involves developing status and media is the primary way to develop this and industry respect.

This means being seen as an expert in your particular genre and respected as someone with industry experience and credibility. Status comes from being heard, talked about and visible. So interviews, product partnerships, blogs, guest appearances on podcasts are just a handful of the ways this is done, with solid support from social media.

Obviously both of these industries have the same ways of developing status, although the content differs significantly.

Don’t ever discount the advice of business people, just because they work in a different industry to yours. Because, as you can see, we can probably learn so much more from each other .

Rem Sequence is an Australian adult content creator, blogger, and internationally published alt model. She has a background in psychology, philosophy and political science and worked in health and sex education, youth work and trauma counselling for almost two decades. Now, she works full time in the adult industry, as well as indulging her passion for arts, writing and music in numerous side projects.

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Living (and Being Sexy) with MS

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It may surprise you to learn that I have multiple disabilities. I am the poster child for invisible illnesses, nice to meet you. In this series of blog posts, I am going to talk about what it is like being an adult content creator (or what I like to call myself, professional hot girl) and managing diseases which are debilitating on a daily basis. I am going to talk through them and I promise there will be a great big dollop of humour because I love having a laugh at myself. And what do I hope to achieve with this? Well, if you are a fan, I hope it will give you an insight what it takes to keep this (*gestures to the meatsuit I inhabit) running and looking as amazing as it does. I hope it will also open your mind to the fact that a lot of us professional hot people are managing a whole bunch of things that are completely invisible to the outsider. And if you are a fellow professional hot person with a disability, I hope this will help you feel like you are not alone.

What is MS?

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I grew up in the 80s when MS was a pretty big deal. I remember the donation jar for the MS Society being on the counter of my mum and dads shop, but having no idea what it was, only that MS was bad enough to have lots of these donation jars kicking around, raising funds for research and cures. But I got the sense that people with MS were relegated to wheelchairs and their lives were pretty shit all in all.

Fast forward 30+ years and I still didn’t have much of an idea of what MS was when I was diagnosed with it in March 2020. The story of my diagnosis is a whole other story that I will save for another time, ok? Let’s just keep this first blog post simple and with a shorter length than an undergraduate philosophy essay…

MS stands for multiple sclerosis and is an auto-immune disease. What that means is that my immune system that instead of attacking nasty things that enter my body, it will attack my body itself. Different auto-immune diseases attack different parts of the body.

I have two auto-immune diseases, one that attacks my bowel and MS, which attacks my central nervous system.

Think about your central nervous system being a network of cables that run through your body, connected to your brain and whose job is to send signals back and forth from all over your body.

To work well, the central nervous system needs to be healthy and protected, so it is wrapped in a special sheath, like an electrical power cord, which makes sure the signals are sent accurately.

Like a power cord, if the sheath that surrounds your central nervous system is damaged, there will be problems getting the signal to travel to and fro.

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In MS, the immune system attacks the special sheath around the central nervous system, creating sores (lesions) which then heal to become scars – hence the name “Multiple Sclerosis” meaning “Many Scars.”

How Does MS Affect You?

MS effects everyone in different ways. As you can imagine, not everyone has the same damage to their central nervous system in the same places. It is also a very complicated system, so different parts of it do different jobs. People’s symptoms of MS can be quite vague until the disease progresses to a point where the symptoms are more visible and diagnosable.

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For me, I have had chronic fatigue for YEARS. Like not just tired, or exhausted but FATIGUED, which is the kind of tiredness that isn’t fixed by sleep. Your body feels encased in concrete.

I have also had issues with being very sensitive to the heat, pins and needles and numbness in one part of my body, headaches and constant pain that has no one source.

It was only when I became very unwell, and my symptoms became much worse, that I was diagnosed. I developed optic neuritis, which is an inflammation of the nerve cells in the eye, which caused me to lose sight, become incredibly painful and sensitive to light.

It is a symptom that a lot of people with MS have, and it is usually the reason people get to be diagnosed with the disease.

My fatigue then worsened, along with my heat sensitivity, difficulty with balance, brain fog and issues with moving my eyes independently of my head.

So, How Do You Do The Work You Do?

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The thing with adult entertainment, and I am going to burst many people’s bubbles right now, is that it is exactly that; entertainment. And entertainment is comprised of a hell of a lot of smoke and mirrors and tricks to get the audience drawn in and to believe something is amazing and effortless. Therein lie the “How.”

Sometimes you might see a photo of me standing up, but I am propped against something.

I might be in enormous pain but I shut it off for the duration of the photo or push through it during a live show.

Or then I may just be less active than usual because if the body decides it does not want to work, there is no convincing it that you need to make clips today.

The smoke and mirrors of adult entertainment, and the flexibility that running my own business affords me, means I can do the work I do.

I sleep a lot, and I am generally running on empty and everything hurts, but I keep doing what I can. And most people are none the wiser.

Now that the preliminaries out of the way and you have a general idea of what may be going on behind the scenes, I can share some funny, tragic and weird stories and how the heck I live (and be sexy) with MS. Is it a terminal illness? Is there a cure? Is this why you complain about being so hot all the damn time? Stay tuned for my next post to know more…

Rem Sequence is an Australian adult content creator, blogger, and internationally published alt model. She has a background in psychology, philosophy and political science and worked in health and sex education, youth work and trauma counselling for almost two decades. Now, she works full time in the adult industry, as well as indulging her passion for arts, writing and music in numerous side projects.


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I am a 2020 Australian X Awards Finalist!

For those of you who have been following me for a while, you will know that I was a finalist in three categories in the 2019 Australian X Awards. Held in Melbourne, Australia in November 2019, I ended up as a runner up in the hotly contested Female Porn Star Category. This year, I am a finalist in 4 awards categories… here they are and why you should vote for me… (voting is open to Australian and New Zealand residents only, so forward this to your friends, family and acquaintances in the region)…

Female Porn Star

As I said in my introduction, in 2019 I took home the runner up prize in this category of the Australian X Awards. In the time since then, my presence in this field has grown exponentially! Not only am I a top model on my suite of clip sites, but I am also a verified Porn Star on PornHub. With over 200 videos for your viewing pleasure, I have amassed 1.1K subscribers and almost 13K views in under a year. Impressive, yes?

Adult Content Creator

If you start looking for me on the internet, you will find an absolute TONNE of adult content that I have made. Apart from clips, pics and other goodies that you can find on my multiple clip sites, I do this regular blog thing and at the moment I am working on a special series of podcasts with an amazing group based in the US (more on that to come). So yes, I have my finger in a few content pies and they are all fucking tasty. Have a look and you will see.

Female Camstar

Live camming is a relatively new area for me but I have already made a big impression! I started camming in 2020 as a means of promoting my new clips when they drop and I have developed a very regular and loyal group of fans. I cam once a week on Streamate, and if you check out my profile, you will find my schedule adjusted to your time zone. I already have over 120 fans and a solid 5 star rating. If you want to check out what a day on cam looks like for me, I release a cheeky safe-for-work edit once a week called Cam Comedy. Worth checking out to see exactly why I should win this category.

Fetish and Fantasy Provider

And finally, the category that is the bread and butter of the Rem Sequence show, Fetish and Fantasy. From Femdom, to spit, to big feet worship and ass worship… I love it all. I have also started a journey into making inflatable content which has been awesome fun. There isn’t anything that I am not willing to have a go at and yes, I do in person meets if you are interested in exploring something in real life.


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How to Support Adult Stars When You Have No Cash…

I absolutely understand that a lot of people are doing it tough right now; physically, emotionally and financially. I know that people have lost their jobs due to COVID-19 and that government relief is difficult and sometimes impossible to access. So adult content creators who you may have previously supported through buying content and services will not be a priority right now. This blog post also goes out to the people who (even before COVID-19) say they wish they could support us but don’t have the money to do so. Here are five ways you can support your favourite adult stars when you have no cash…

Visit our PornHub Accounts

Most models have accounts on PornHub either as amateurs or professional porn stars. On these accounts, you will find free clips, pay-to-view content and content viewable on Premium. Viewing our videos and giving them the thumbs up helps us immensely. PornHub is a tube site, which means models get paid per each view on accessible videos. And liking a video helps too because the calculation on what a model gets paid takes into account the percentage of likes on their content. Liking and commenting on pictures in a models albums on PornHub helps also. All of these things goes into the metrics which help drive up our scores and gets us seen by more people. Also, a pro-tip: we get paid MORE for videos viewed by Premium members and guess what… premium membership is FREE. Do I have a PornHub account? I sure do! Check out my collection of smut right here.

Support us on Twitter

Not-Safe-For-Work (NSFW) Twitter is one of the only social media platforms where adult content creators are allowed to advertise. So your support on Twitter is invaluable. Follow your favourite adult content creators, like and comment on their posts, retweet and help promote their product to a wider audience. Being active and present on your favourite models Twitter is important in helping us try to beat the algorithm as Twitter has made it known that they are actively restricting content they deem offensive. Sad but true. Pro-tip: on your favourite model’s account page, there is a little bell next to the follow button. Click on that and you will be notified when they post a new Tweet. Due to the consistent shadowbanning, we could be posting every hour of the day and you may never know unless you hit that little notification bell. Check out my Twitter here and tell me what you think.

Visit our Clip Sites

Even if you can’t purchase clips, content or services at the moment, it always helps if you visit our clip sites and show some love on our profiles. Like clips, watch free clips and give a review, if you have bought clips in the past and haven’t reviewed them, go and do that. Follow your favourite creators too because some sites give rewards to creators who get their follower numbers up. The main one I am referring to here is ManyVids. Also on ManyVids, you can look at a model’s About Me section and like their attributes. Doing that helps with our rankings too, which in turn helps promote us on the site. Check out my ManyVids profile here and if you haven’t showered me in love, do it now.

Contest Voting

Most clip sites have some form of contests on them to help connect and engage consumers and models. For some features, you will require cash, but most have a free voting option. Not only does free voting help, but boosting models call for support in contests on your social media will help too. Free vote as much as you can; with some you can vote daily so make sure you are hitting that vote button whenever you can. AP Clips have regular contests and although I haven’t entered one yet, I would love to hear your thoughts on my account on that platform.

Reddit

Reddit is also another platform which has a NSFW section. I am new to Reddit, so I am still finding my way around it. But from what I can gather, for people to grow on there, they need others to support them through following them, upvoting their posts and crossposting their content to relevant communities. Reddit involves a system of “karma” and you need to have good/high “karma” in order to reach larger audiences. (Sidenote: calling this system “karma” really does amuse me). So on Reddit, follow your favourite creators on their communities, upvote their posts and if you have better “karma” than they do, crosspost into communities where their target audience can be seen. For example, crossposting me into Big Ass or PAWG subreddits would be super helpful. Check out my Reddit here and be gentle with me; as I said, I am an absolute newbie there.


What other ways do you support your favourite adult content creators when you don’t have the cold hard cash to do so? If you are a model, can you suggest any other ways that our fans can support us? I would love to hear your thoughts and my emails are always open. Email me at remsequence@gmail.com.


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Rem Sequence News #8

This week has been intense on many fronts… from what is happening worldwide, to changes in clip sites, to managing my personal stuff, it has been hard to keep up with everything!

As I mentioned in my last newsletter, June is Jiggle Month on Clips4Sale,  and it has already been a cracker of a month on that platform since almost all my clips have some form of jiggle in them. If you like this kind of thing, then this would be a great time to check out that site as myself and other creators will be loading up a tonne of super hot jiggle content.

After being approached by a lovely customer, I have ventured into doing inflatable content, which has been a steep learning curve but something that I am really enjoying. What the heck do I mean by that? Well, check out my new clips below and you will get a sense of what all the fuss is about.

Let’s get on with it, shall we?

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Rem Sequence News #7

Welcome to the next edition of the Rem Sequence News… it is the first day of Winter here in Australia and we have been blessed with some super cold weather. I am not a fan of the heat, so Winter is a very welcome relief from Australia’s very harsh weather.

May was a huge month for me on ManyVids . I finished up in the top 50 of Many Vids Social Stars sitting nicely at Number 44! If you haven’t done so already, come and check out what I have available in my store there. I have a large number of requests for panties, so I will definitely be adding more to my store there.

I have some exciting things coming up at the end of the month, and as a result my blogging has fallen off. I have no excuses for you… except that need a clone, pronto. Or an assistant. I would settle for an assistant at this stage!

June is Jiggle Month on Clips4Sale… they should just call it Rem Sequence Month and be done with it! Anyway, if you like things that jiggle this would be a great time to check out that site as myself and other creators will be loading up a tonne of super hot jiggle content.

Anyway, I have been working hard on clips so let’s see what I have to offer you this month, hey?

 

NEW CLIPS FROM REM SEQUENCE

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How I am surviving COVID-19

We are living in unprecedented times. A global pandemic which has hit every single part of the world has turned our lives upside down. For me personally, I have been physically unwell since late 2019 and confined to indoors for the majority of time even before COVID-19 hit and the threat came close to home. My treatment includes multiple immunosuppressive drugs, so being out and about on the best of days is quite dangerous, let alone when a rogue virus is cutting down people left, right and centre. That being said, I am doing ok and have my own strategies to survive this very strange time.

keeping busy with work

Luckily, I work in an industry that is based purely online. So my work has changed very minimally. With more people at home, the demand on entertainment services and things to distract is higher than ever. To keep moving through this period, I am able to be very busy which means the time at home passes quickly. As people are also yearning for contact with other people due to social distancing removing direct interactions, I have begun live camming on Streamate. It is also a great way for me to have realtime contact with friends and new people. Consider checking out my profile and coming to say hi while I am online.

spending time in bed

As I am recovering from illness, I am still spending a whole lot of time in bed sleeping. I have set up a very comfortable bed space at the moment, including room for my two big bull terriers who provide very good company. I used to be alot more active in bed, but now I am using it to rest (wink wink, nudge nudge). If you want to check out a blast from the past (and my bedroom), cast your eyes over “MILF Bedplay.” This clip shows you just how active (read flirtatious) I can be in my bed. Available on all my platforms including ManyVids.

gardening and working on my house

Truth be told, I am not physically quite well enough to get around to all the household maintenance jobs on my list, but I have been taking the time to give my garden some much overdue TLC. Even though this may be just pruning or feeding my roses, I make sure I get out most days to do the age old pottering. The weather at the moment has become quite cool (it is Autumn right now in Australia), so time spent outside looks nothing like it did in Summer. Case in point: “Wet and Wild.” In Summer and even spring, there is no issue with going outside and spraying oneself liberally with water from a garden hose. But at the moment, that is a slightly ridiculous (and risky) activity. However, if you would like to relive those halcyon days of big bootys getting wet outside, check the clip out on ManyVids.

looking after myself

I am doing the best I can to look after myself, and at the moment I am putting as much energy as I can into doing that. Not just eating and drinking properly, but painting my nails, washing and brushing my hair, giving myself facials and moisturising my body. I enjoy moisturising myself, and one of the side effects of my medication is very dry skin so I need to do so regularly. It is probably timely that I make another moisturising/body worship clip but here is one from the vault; if you like to see moisturiser oozing all over big natural boobs, then “All The Cream” is for you. It is snuggled in quite comfortably with all my big boob and solo masturbation content on ManyVids. Come and see for yourself.

netflix

During my work breaks, I am watching a fair bit of Netflix. I have my favourite genres (horror, suspense, thrillers, scifi) but after completely draining all of them for the goodness (and continuing to scrape the barrel well afterwards) I have started watching more comedies including Community (which I absolutely loved when it first came out). I have never Netflixed and Chilled because I am from the DVD and Chill era. However, if you want to see what Netflix and Chill looks like with me, I suggest you check out my clip, aptly titled “Netflix & Chill.” This is what a laid back night of Netflix, weed and naughty times looks like when you have Rem Sequence next to you. Once again, it is on all my platforms, including ManyVids.

Stay safe and well during this period while we bring everything under control. I am sorry to say things will not be quite the same once the threat is reduced, but that is the nature of life. Change. Adapt. Flourish. Or something like that ;).

How have you been surviving through this extraordinary time? Is there anything I can provide that will help make things better? I always love to hear from my fans so please don’t hesitate to email me: remsequence@gmail.com


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The Five Must Have Boundaries for Content Creators – Part 2

In the first blog post I wrote on boundaries, I talked about WHY it is so important to have them in these five areas. But what use is a why if you don’t have a HOW? In this follow up blog post, I will talk about how I maintain boundaries in order to stay happy and healthy.

With your TIME

The first thing you need to do when maintaining boundaries is to set them. Time is probably one of the easiest areas to do this in, as it is an objective measurement. For example:

  • When will you work?
  • When won’t you work?
  • When are you available for your customers (how much time)?
  • When are you not available?
  • How much interaction are you willing to give to potential customers (how much time)?

Once you have decided on these, don’t be shy about it; make it known. You can do this through your 1:1 interactions with people, embed it into your social media postings or posting on your sites. I am not available after 10pm every night or before 8am in the morning my time and I am pretty vocal about this. At this stage, this works for me. If it changes, I will make it known again. Consider it the opening hours of your business. The thing is, if people know when you are open for business and what to expect from you, then there is no pushback. Why? Because your clients/customers then accept that that is how you operate. You don’t have to be snarky about it, just matter of fact “I don’t respond after 10pm, I will get back to this in the morning.” Treat it like any other business would.

With who YOU are

We all have lives that are separate from our content creator personas, and although there may be some crossover, it is important to keep some distance between the two (for the sake of your mental health). This is difficult though, as we develop relationships with our fans, customers and clients, it is normal that we may start to share more about our lives than we may have at the beginning. Also, the way this industry is now, people expect a certain amount of personal sharing and connection with their favourite content creators. I maintain this boundary by treating Rem Sequence as a job, both in practice but also in my headspace. My fans and clients do not know my real name; I ask that my friends and people who know me in real life call me by my real name. I am not a big sharer anyway, so I find it easy not to share personal details in public. I think this is useful to think about in multiple ways; the content of your photos (keeping personal things out of them), when you talk about places you visit, things you enjoy. Although these can build relationships with your fanbase, they can also erode the boundary between YOU and your work. How much are you willing to share? What things are you going to keep just for you? When I am pressed about certain details, I have a few strategies that I use. Sometimes, I will make something up; other times I will just distract the person. Remember, you are in charge of what and how much you share of YOU. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

With your CASH

As with time, how we maintain boundaries when it comes to our money is a bit easier as it is something objective. Your payment methods, your rates and your pricing are all things you can decide upon and rattle off very easily when asked. How to maintain that boundary? My best piece of advice is to stick to your guns, even if someone gets pushy. Lots of content creators get worried about losing business or what others will think about them if they budge around their cash. If someone really wants to have a piece of you, they will work with you and not waste your time by arguing with you over a payment method or a matter of dollars. Let these people walk. Don’t even bother arguing, just politely excuse yourself from the conversation. You are costing yourself MORE money by justifying why you run your business in a certain way to people that are not invested in what you are doing.

With your PERSONA

When it comes to boundaries around my persona, I have found that the number one reason that I may budge on them is because of a lack of confidence in myself. If I feel like maybe I should explore area xyz because someone has asked me repeatedly about it YET it is something I am not comfortable with, then the reason probably is because of a loss of faith in what I am creating. The way I manage this is by surrounding myself with supportive and encouraging people who are knowledgeable in the business and can pull me up by the bootstraps when I need it. Instead of questioning and exploring my boundaries with customers, clients and random peers, I will go back to this group of supporters and check in with them. Nine times out of ten they tell me that my initial reasoning was sound and not to worry about what anybody else says. I think when it comes to our personas, having confidence in ourselves and commitment to the path we are taking is absolutely key. And the way to maintain this is through the people we surround ourselves with.

With your ENERGY

In my first post on boundaries, I talked a bit about how to maintain these around your energy. It is definitely easy to get sucked into working 24/7 as a content creator and it is just not healthy. In my opinion, the best thing you can do in this regard is to treat it as if it were a vanilla job where you are accountable to someone for the level of energy you put in. Develop a work schedule and stick to it. Incorporate break times/days into this schedule and make sure you future proof yourself for if you are in the unfortunate position to have to take time off. The number one thing is to work out how much you can do in the time you have, and know that some other creators may work more than you and some less, but that doesn’t make you any better or worse than anyone else. And if people make you feel bad about that… well, that says a lot more about them than it does you. Working with people can be incredibly draining, and you must develop boundaries around this and maintain them in order to remain consistent and survive in this industry. Once again, having a strong support network who can encourage and support you in your decisions around this is vital.

I hope this piece helped to address questions you may have had about how to maintain boundaries. However, in writing this, I realised one of the key things to success is developing supportive and encouraging relationships with other content creators and people in our industry. In my next piece, I will talk about finding your tribe and some guidelines I have found useful when building and maintaining my support network.


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Why I Love My Big Butt

I like big butts and I cannot lie.

Sir Mix-A-Lot

Yeah, I know, it is an overused lyric trundled out when referring to the big booty babes of our world. But you know, it kinda says it all. As I have said in a previous post, I have despised my big delicious bottom for many many years. Mainly because of other people’s view of it, but also because it sometimes makes my life a little difficult. But I have grown to love my big ass and all of the amazing things it brings to my life. Here is a brief run down of why I love my big butt sooo much!

so much jiggle

Big asses move. Lots. I used to be super embarassed about how much my butt jiggled but now I don’t care. In my opinion, the more movement, the better! And it is something people say to me a lot; they love a booty that jiggles. Take my “PAWG Ass Jiggle” clip, for example. This was a custom clip designed specifically for me by a client who loves to see that booty jiggle. And if you like it too, then this clip will not disappoint. Get it on ManyVids today for $2.99.

SOft, squishy, SQUEEZABle

There is nothing nicer than grabbing a big fat juicy ass and squeezing it…. or getting your own big booty squeezed! With big butts, you can get a good handful and hang onto it. I should do a clip which is just all butt grabbing and squeezing… but I do have one which is super hot and features me grabbing my own ass. “Strip Spank Suck” was another fan request and is so sexy, it makes me get very warm. If you need to raise the temperature, go check it out on ManyVids today for only $2.99.

built for thongs

I never used to wear thongs. I felt like the junk that I was packing in my trunk needed to be covered up at all time…. WRONG! In “Spank Session”, you can clearly see that big asses are built for thongs. Thongs are the perfect way to showcase a juicy big booty babe’s best assets. The blue thong I wear in this clip is divine and looks amazing on me. Want to see? Get it on ManyVids today for $7.99.

spanking

Speaking of spanking, big, round, luscious butts are perfect for spanking. The “thwack” you get with impact play is just so satisfying. And the beautiful ripple you get across a gorgeous fat ass is perfection. There are few things that make me hotter than having someone spank me or just spank myself. “Spank You Very Much” is a good example of an early clip of mine which features spanking with multiple objects. Amazing stuff. See some retro Rem Sequence by purchasing it on ManyVids for $4.99.

it claps!

Finally, I love the way that a big ass has the unique ability to make sound all on it’s own. Bouncing it, twerking it can make the fabled ass clap start up and once it happens, it is very difficult to make it stop! Not only is the sound so satisfying, but you know the thing with physics right? Once you get something BIG moving, it takes a great deal of force to get it to stop. In “PAWG Ass Clapping”, you get to see the amazing natural wonder that is my clapping ass. You will hear it start and refuse to stop. Sometimes, it claps so much that my butt cheeks hurt. Watch me inflict some serious pain on my beautiful booty by picking up this clip today on ManyVids for $2.99.

What is your favourite thing about big butts? The way they jiggle? The way you can grab them and squeeze them? How about the way they look in thongs? Perhaps you like spanking them or hearing them clap? I love to hear from my fans so please send me an email with all your big booty desires: remsequence@gmail.com


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The Five Must-Have Boundaries for Content Creators – Part 1

Boundaries are important, in every part of your life. When I talk about boundaries, I am referring to rules you make around your interactions with other people. In the content creation industry, I believe they are mandatory and have definitely given me more clarity on where I draw the line on a number of things. In a previous post, I said I could probably do a whole blog post on my experience with boundaries. The response from the readers was “yes please!” So here are my five must-have boundaries for content creators.

With your TIME

Time is precious; it is something that once it is gone, you can never get it back. This is my number boundary area for this very reason. I have an extremely low tolerance for time wasters and for people who do not respect the boundaries I place around my time. I think it is important to look at your time in a number of ways, and make some decisions about what you will and won’t accept. For example:

  • When will you work?
  • When won’t you work?
  • When are you available for your customers (how much time)?
  • When are you not available?
  • How much interaction are you willing to give to potential customers (how much time)?

With my time, I have designated times when I am making content, online chatting with customers and fans, working on admin and answering messages. I am very busy in other areas of my life so I simply do not have time to waste. And if I want to get things done, then these boundaries must be rock solid. If people genuinely want your time, they will respect how precious it is and treat you accordingly.

With who YOU are

Here is a bombshell. I am not actually Rem Sequence. Crazy, I know, but hear me out. I actually have a life which has a little crossover with my model persona, but a lot of my life has little to no relation to my work. This is also a very important one to me, because I recently had an experience where my identity felt a little detached. For several weeks I felt extremely isolated because Rem Sequence is a part of me, not my entire identity. But when everyone you interact with knows you as this persona, all the other facets of you seem to drift away. The fact you need to remember is that you are not your model persona. Establishing boundaries around this so that you can keep some distance between the role you play for your fans and who you are when you are off the clock. Although this is important for safety (and why we adopt stage names for ourselves, protecting our real life identities from those who may want to exploit us), I think this is really important for our mental health. We are sharing extremely intimate parts of our lives, and exposing vulnerabilities at the same time. This can feel very unsafe unless we have ways to manage it.

With your CASH

Trust me. You know your business better than anyone and you know what works best for you when it comes to the almighty dollar. From how much you charge for content, to how much it costs per minute for you to provide a service, to the payment methods and timeliness of your clients paying, you are the expert. It doesn’t matter if Joe Bloggs got a 15 minute custom from someone else at a third of your rate (or twice your rate). It is completely irrelevant if Jane Smalls uses a tip or tribute function or if they think you shouldn’t use some other payment platform because the one you prefer isn’t safe. And one I think we have all heard a million times before: “I can’t pay through your method: do you accept any others?” If people really want to buy your content or services, experience tells me they will do backflips to do so and will not expect you to put the same effort into the negotiation.

With your PERSONA

As we develop in the adult content creation business, we finetune our persona and what we create based upon what we enjoy doing, what we are good at and what is successful for our unique situation. Some of us just make clips, some are stars of the photoset and merch whilst others smash it with live shows. For me, I know I have grown and stretched into other areas that I found I enjoyed. However, there will always be someone saying “why don’t you do xyz?” Or “I would love to see you do abc!” Feedback from our clients and fans is gold, but micromanagement from outside is a complete buzzkill. If there are services you are not comfortable providing, or types of content you don’t enjoy making, you are under no obligation to do so. Sometimes we may feel we have to respond to every request with enthusiasm and a can-do attitude, especially when starting out. But honestly, you do not have to. That is the beautiful thing about this industry; we have such a diverse and multiskilled community that there will be someone who would love to do what you don’t want to do. And the coolest thing about that? It leaves you open to do the things YOU enjoy and that make your work meaningful.

With your ENERGY

And now we come to my personal fatal flaw, and one that I am now making a conscious effort to work on. I have unrealistic expectations of exactly how much I can get out of myself and recently it backfired in a most spectacular way, resulting in a lengthy hospital stay. For those with ambitious, A-type personalities, this is going to be a struggle. I believe you need to be treating your content creation as if it is a vanilla job. You clock on and you clock off. You have break times and you have scheduled days off. If you are unwell, you be kind to yourself and you do not work. Working out how much you can do in the time you have is paramount. Some people are able to put more energy in, and some people less. I am here to tell you that that is totally ok, and that doesn’t make you better than or less than anyone else. The secret to success in this business is consistency. And if you do not develop boundaries around your energy, which, let’s be honest, is the fuel to this fire, then you are going to get a hell of a shock when you wake up one day to find the jerry can empty. Or like me, stuck in a hospital bed discussing the possibility of life saving surgery.

Don’t get me wrong; it is totally fine for your boundaries to change over time. After all, as people, we grow, develop and change our preferences and what we are comfortable with all the time. What suited me in 2017 may not suit me going into 2020. The thing is to be aware of it, to have these conversations with yourself and value you as the amazing and capable person you are. Because what is the saying? “You are worth it.” This post has really focussed on what areas I think you need to develop boundaries around. In a follow up post, I will talk about HOW I do this and offer some suggestions for how you could build them into your business.


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